#AccessoriesAreMyThing: How To Look Feminine With A Short Afro
Continuing with my #AccessoriesAreMyThing series, let me tell you a short story. One night in Berlin, I found myself in the Ladies Toilets trying to make some sense of my lil’ Afro: you see water is to an Afro, what kryptonite is to Superman: It Destroys. So after a vigorous dance session, sweat tends to make my hair shrink, meaning I have to ‘Superman Dash’ into the loos to puff it out again (which often fails).
Anyhoo, as I faced the mirror and rearranged the chains on my gold leaf comb, a girl looked at me and goes, ‘I love the comb in your hair, you look like a Queen.’ Don’t you love it when people give you compliments at the exact right time? With that ego boost, I gave my image a mental finger snap and Sashay Shantayed out of the toilets and back to my friends. The End.
Now why did I share this story? Because a friend with a TWA recently used interesting words to describe how she felt with her short Afro, ‘unfeminine…not ugly’; and I got what she meant instantly. Honestly, I struggle with this way of thought with my short hair and what helps to lift my mood and make me feel like a Wo!Man are my hair accessories. Take this gold leaf comb with chains, for example: I wear them so the chains fall ever so slightly on my face- that gentle sway-for whatever reason, makes me feel feminine.
Yes, yes beauty and confidence should come from within but sometimes one needs a little help along the way. Can the ladies in the congregation stamp their feet and shout, Amen!!
Bolero: Miss Selfridge, Bustier: WYLDR, Earrings, Necklace and cuff: Topshop, Rings and gold leaf comb with chain (Alas you can’t buy any of the pieces I’m wearing from their online store): iam, Similar gold leaf comb with chains: Amazon