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How Much Does It Cost To Be A Fashion Blogger?

Ladies and Gentleladies lets get down to the nitty gritty: how much does it cost to be a fashion blogger? Now I’m on my self hosted platform and revamping my content, I realise more than ever that fashion blogging don’t come cheap. I’ve taken to the web to read more on the topic, but I’ve found the net mainly tends to focus on top-tier fashion bloggers and what they are earning and spending. But what about bloggers like myself, i.e. ones that don’t have photographer or camera men contacts, so have to reach deep in their pockets to pay for these services or ones that are not on PRs radars, so have to pay for their own clothes? Continue Reading to see how much it costs me to be a fashion blogger…

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9 Blogs/Bloggers That Rocked My World This Year!

The year has nearly ended and before it whisks away into the unknown abyss, there are a few bloggers I want to give an extra shout out too.  I should preface this with saying that I’m grateful to all of my Readers who give me love with your clicks, Likes and Comments, really: Thank You.  And with this being the season of thanks and all that good-ish, here are the blogs/bloggers I want to thank for their amazing comments, support and who continue to be a never-ending well of inspiration. There’s so much to say about these blogs/bloggers but I’m going to keep it short and sweet!

  1. Stella from Fashion Style Police

Thanks Stella for your consistency and support of my blog (and sharing my posts on Twitter).  I don’t go online much to see who’s wearing what, I barely know who is on the front cover these days or who bagged which campaign, so I appreciate being kept in the know via your blog. I also took some of your tips on how to be a better blogger and lets see how the wind blows with that, eh!

Fashion & Style Police

Fashion & Style Police

2. Dana from I’ve Got Cake

Bitch, where do I start with you.  Love your Food n Fashion blog and how you lace both with random happenings in your day/life and regale all with heavy dosages of foul language! I love to swear, I almost find it therapeutic, so I have a whale of a time on your blog! Ps you also inspire me to be a better cook…one day, Ha! I’ve enjoyed our Comments Banter and look forward for more to come!

I've Got Cake

I’ve Got Cake

3. Cara from

Really Gurl, thanks for your support, in the dreaded month of October I left the blogosphere for a while, and I’ll always remember your sweet message to me asking me what was up! That apart, I live for the photos of your lil’ soldiers and have really enjoyed seeing you come into your own this year: your photography, style et al. And wooohooo you won my Giveaway, we have to sort that out…Besides your juicy comments, thanks for giving my newly born Facebook Page some luv!



4. Vanessa from What Would V Wear

I think if I met you I’d actually fan out, you remind me of a heady cocktail mix of Debbie Harry and Nina Perrson (The Cardigans).  Your blog continues to inspire me, the photography is Beyond, as is your style. I’ve said it before and damn it, I’ll say it again: I want your sunglasses collection!  And when I found out you were a Ma to boot, my jaw did drop, I don’t know how you find the time to wear so many hats so fabulously well. Thanks for your lovely comments and support.

What Would V Wear

What Would V Wear

5. Fraquoh and Franchomme from the Attireclub

Where do I start with these lovely Gentlemen?  They are my one-stop point when I want to read up about menswear trends, which dude wore what at which event or sometimes when I want to be schooled on ‘6 Men’s Office Fashion Tips’. Gentlemen, you definitely push me to write more and better menswear articles. And Big thanks for promoting my Blog Competitions and TV programs.

6. Dana from Dee for Dana

What to say about Ms Dee the Cool Minimalist from Abu Dhabi? Her warmth and positive energy radiate from her words and hers is one of those blogs I’m happy I stumbled across whilst ‘Blog Surfing’.  On a side note, I’m also all about her Sexy Bed hair, sometimes I think of certain situations and the hair I would have in each one of them (#TrueTalk) and I can so see myself laying on dishevelled white sheets after a thorough ‘exercise session’ with her hair! And back to the topic at hand- Thanks for the support hon!

Dee for Dana

Dee for Dana

7. Nedu From

I used to think in these days of 150 Words Or Less communication, that for a blog to be popular, it was really more about pictures than words but Nedu’s blog posts prove me wrong each and every time.  Her About section reads, ‘Words are the fabric of my mind’, and I truly love to read her finely spun narratives: her play with words, wit…I get transported back to a time when I wanted to do a Masters in Journalism to improve my writing.  Anyhoo, back to Nedu- Big Thanks for your support, you make me want to have some kind of Bloggers Cupcake Party in Lagos, so we can stuff ourselves and chit chat!



8. Filomena from Figuring Things Out and VGC

One of the things I dig (Yeees, I said dig!!)about Filomena is her statement low cut, I have deep admiration for women who can rock that look.  I also love the way Filomena gives me options via her 2 blogs- when I want to really ponder about certain things ‘Figuring Things Out’ helps with my thought process and when I want to be inspired style and beauty wise (whilst still waxing lyrical), VGC is just a click away.  Big Thank for your support and thoughtful comments, looking forward to seeing more of your designs next year. Ps she made that dress in the image below folks!



9. Meron From Fashion Style Mogul

Meron came recently into my blogosphere, and I love her joie de vivre, reading her blog makes me feel young again, tsigh (Haha!).  Meron, thanks for your insightful comments and I’m looking forward to more Blog Bonding next year!

Fashion Style Mogul

Fashion Style Mogul

Aaaah!! There are three more so I’ll give a quick shout to  Naeun from Tongue In Chic  ,April from The Promdi Chic and Anwesh Sahoo from The Effeminaire.

And that’s it folks!   Again Big Thanks to Eeeeeveryone who engages with my blog in one way or the other.  I’m in Virginia spending Christmas with my Big Sis and her family and between the constant Christmas music my sis insists on playing, helping my 10 year old niece design a jumper for her school’s Ugly Christmas Jumper competition (which she won!) and other festive good stuff: I’m Fiiiiiiinally in Christmas Mode.

And on that note: MERRY CRIMBO ONE AND ALL!!!

Bisous Bisous (Said in exaggerated French accent)

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Caramel&Chocolate Love Concepts: The Initiative Bringing Singles Together In Lagos, Nigeria

Fueled with an ambition to create a platform dedicated to bringing professional singles together in Lagos, my friend Busola Ogunnaike and her business partner Nkechi Bakare, set up Caramel & Chocolate Love Concepts.


Founders Of Caramel & Chocolate Love Concepts: Busola (Left) and Nkechi (Right).

Starting of their business with a bang, the two ladies were semifinalists in a female entrepreneurs competition led by She Leads Africa(SLA) in 2014. SLA seeks to invest in Africa’s most talented and promising female entrepreneur and hosts an annual flagship program, which is a pitch competition targeted at female-led high growth startups on the continent and diaspora. Sponsors and supporters for the successful start-up company include international and pan-African businesses including GT Bank, Huawei, Etisalat, and Forbes Woman Africa.

Coming from London and Berlin, where dating apps like Tinder and sites like Ok Cupid are de rigueur, I was very keen to find out how a dating business thrives in a city like Lagos, which despite its cosmopolitan nature: is far more traditional and dare I say old-fashioned when it comes to dating. I had so many questions for Busola and luckily I was able to sit her down for a good grilling!

MFSL: What motivated you and your partner to start this dating service company?

Busola: I relocated to Lagos last year and quickly noticed that it’s very hard to meet like-minded Singles in Lagos. This is even more so, if you didn’t grow up in Nigeria, or you’ve spent the bulk of years abroad (which I have). When that’s the case, one tends not to have a network with a pool of eligible men or women you can dip from to date. Also going out socially in Lagos, I noticed more often than not, people stuck in their groups making mingling and getting to know new people that much harder.
Consequently, my partner and I came up with our company, Caramel & Chocolates Love Concepts, so we could create a space with an environment that facilitated mingling and interaction between Singles.

MFSL: How did you go about taking your first Singles event from concept to reality?

Busola: Once my partner and I decided we would do the event in February 2014, from doing research we decided to host the event at 355 Lounge as we felt it was  a good match.

MFSL: What was your thought process when inviting people for your first Speed Dating event?

Busola: For that we tapped into our personal contact and targeted our friends we knew were open and adventurous professionals. We told those contacts to invite their contacts. We wanted the first event to be private and exclusive, so we didn’t do mass promotions.


Busola Ogunnaike

MFSL: What were your thoughts on your first Singles Event?
Busola: We had it at 355 Lounge, which is a nice restaurant slash lounge in Victoria Island. It was on a Saturday evening and it drew a very diverse crowd, people from Lebanon, Europe and of course Nigerians, Indians etc. We put our entrance fee above N5000 which got each guest unlimited cocktails (until our tab at the bar ran out) and delicious finger food.
At the start of the event, people were slightly hesitant but as the night drew on they relaxed and got more involved.
About 20 people came to the event and we had a good ratio of men to women. It was actually an ideal number for a cozy event.

MFSL: This year in April 2015, your company hosted the Singles event, Dating In The Dark at Lotus Lounge at Pattaya, Victoria Island. How did that go?

Busola: Well for this year, we wanted to put more of a twist on the typical dating event, so inspired by the Dating In The Dark TV Show, we did a Dating In The Dark event. But for our event, the way it worked was it happened like a Speed Dating event in terms of the set-up, the big difference was each guest was blindfolded, so we were on hand to guide people from seat to seat.

MFSL: What difficulties have you faced so far in running the business?

Busola: A few include deciding on the right time for an event, for example with our very first event, the men came on time but the women didn’t and that wait can dampen the atmosphere/vibe of the event. Trying to convince people to actually come to the event can be challenging as it involves trying to break the stereotype that dating events are ‘desperate’ etc. However, we are working to address this through, developing alternate marketing strategies and creating more awareness.
Also, my partner and I have 9 to 5 jobs, so it can be hard to balance that with Caramel & Chocolates Love Concepts.

Nkechi Bakare

Nkechi Bakare

MFSL: Finally, what do you hope for your Caramel & Chocolates Love Concepts in the future?

Busola: Right now we are funding ourselves, in the future we hope to partner with brands. We want to be known as an organization that brings Singles together in unique ways. We also hope to not only host events for singles but to provide matchmaking services as well.

Dear Readers, here is your turn to take part in the growth of Caramel & Chocolates Love Concepts. I would love to know from you what you think the company should do event-wise to attract their target audience, i.e. Late 20 Somethings to 30 Somethings? Your feedback is essential and a great help to give Caramel & Chocolates Love Concepts more of an idea of what their target audience wants in their dating events. So what kind of Dating Games do you think should be played at their events? Which event spaces would you want the dating events to take place? What would you want as a side attraction at their events, i.e. a live performance, comedy routine etc?

Please note feedback is very much welcome from women or men from all over the world.
Like Caramel & Chocolates Love Concepts’ Facebook Page here-

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What’s The Difference Between Lagos and Berlin Guys?

Now I’m dwelling in Port Harcourt Slash ‘The Land That The Good Lord Forgot’, but a few weekends ago I was sitting in a club a male friend had taken me out to.  The table consisted of his friends and I, and they had bought me a cocktail, and when I finished it, I turned round to my friend and asked, ‘What would you like to drink?’.  My male friend shook his head, looked at me and said, ‘Biki, we are not in Berlin anymore’.  I laughed, and ‘got it’- I was now in Lagos, a city where its the norm and almost expected for the woman to have drinks poured on her from every angle, and she need not return the favour.

I know what some of you might be thinking- ‘You may not pay that night but you sure will later!!”  But I remember a night which started of with a good friend and I in a bar, it was pretty empty but we stayed nevertheless.  Next thing, we had a rather odious looking guy usher us to his table which was full of more odious uglies and they were happy to literally drown us in champagne.  We played along and when we had drank our fill, we thanked them and bounced!

Could this ever happen in Berlin ladies?  Having done my share of partying in Berlin for about 7 years and been with many a different Berlin Male Beast, I’d have to say- Hell Naaah!

This and a few small episodes have got me thinking about the differences between Lagos and Berlin dudes.  Bear in mind, the conclusions I’ve come to are based on my personal experiences.  Let’s walk through it shall we?

‘Playing The Dating Game’

In this area, I don’t know who one has to be more wary of- the Berliner or the Lagosian.  One thing I’ve found out is with Lagos Dudes,  a lot of them are all about ‘The Show’ and as a woman, you can’t believe The Hype. For example when dating here, its customary for the guy to drive to your house, pick you up, take you out and drop you at your door at the end of the night.  If you get a good ‘un, for the first few dates he can take you to some places were the bill tallies up pretty high. Awwww, doesn’t that kind of effort mean something?  Erm, in my experience, no it doesn’t.  It’s just part of the Lagos Dating Game and chances are, he’s paying (in both senses of the word!) that kind of attention to a bunch of other ladies.

On the other hand, if a guy was doing any of the above in Berlin, chances are you mean something to him/you are the only one he’s ‘courting’, because Berlin dudes don’t roll with their wallets like that. You see in Berlin the Dating Mantra seems to be, ‘The Best Things In Life Are Free’.

Let’s Get Physical’

Ok. So. We know that no matter where a guy is from: it’s best not to sleep with him on the first date. But I’d say this rule applies even more so in Lagos.  Why? I was chatting to a girl in Berlin on how she came to be in Berlin- she said she had travelled down from the weekend from Rotterdam or wherever, went to a club, met a guy, effed his brains out all weekend, that progressed to a long distance thing, which led to her moving over.  Will that relationship last? I don’t know but I’ve sure never heard a story like that in Lagos before.  Or am I wrong, perhaps there are many couples stories like that here and people just don’t talk about it.  But I doubt it.

In Berlin sensuality and sexuality is the norm, and to a point, women don’t get judged for that. That’s certainly not the case here, in Lagos to get that wedding ring, it’s best to wire your legs shut and sit pretty.  If you don’t, if you dare show that you are a woman with neeeEEeeeeds, seems to me you are branded with a scarlet ‘A’ on your back. Why do I think this? Maybe its because every other week on Bella Naija (the most popular blog out here), there’s always some article promoting Virginity till Marriage which is often followed by many comments from the public quoting some form of scripture…

Appearances Can Be Deceiving’

But the average Lagos Boy wants to be deceived!!! He can protest till he is blue in the face (which is quite a feat, due to our skin complexion)- hammering on about how he hates the Weave Culture, how we are wearing so much make up that men are taking women home, and not recognizing them the Morning After bla bla bla.  To all that I say, SHHHHHHAARAP!! (Erm, Shut Up): Don’t hate on the Beast you goddamn created.

Men love beautiful women, I don’t have a problem with that. My issue is the level of beauty most Lagos/Nigerian men want you to live up to.  All Day, Every Day.  I said ‘most’ not ‘all’ O!  Why do I think this?  Here’s one of many examples- Last Christmas, I met a new male friend of mine looking like this:

biki11Now this ‘Biki’, received nothing but praise for him.  I then met up with him several Sundays later to hang, and I was wearing a full midi skirt, top, my turban and Shock Horror my TWA could be seen at the top.  Oh! and I had my new purple glasses on. This Biki, got a whole lot of silly (in my opinion) questions thrown her way- ‘Are you wearing glasses for medical reasons?’, ‘Why don’t you wear tighter clothes…?’ ‘Why have I never seen you in jeans…?’ etc.

Did I mention that I’m not dating this fool and it was Sunday?!  How about this- that day included, he had seen me a total of about 4 times- and based on that, felt he could summarize who I was and give me advice. This is another pet-peeve of mine in Nigeria- people/men are only too happy to quickly come to conclusions, lock you in a box and throw away the key.  Now everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, but do you know how insulting it is to receive criticism from a dude wearing generic jeans and an Arsenal T??!! Arsenal was playing that day but that’s still no excuse!  I have to add here that I still like this friend, even more so as he introduced me to another male friend of his who I am doing a Group Hang with this weekend…

But back to the ‘tory at hand- I didn’t get insulted by my friend’s slamming because at this age, I’m really like-Whatever, you are not my target audience so… I am an eclectic moody dresser, and so depending on my mood I can serve up 70s Glam, or 80s a la Madonna or African Swag but at the moment I’m really into the retro look- fitted tops, corset belts, midi flared skirts…speaking of which, I recently watched a fab 50s Elizabeth Taylor film called ‘Rhapsody’, where this was pretty much her style.

elizabethBut I digress, its 2015 and I’m in Lagos, where a lot of men seem to prefer this look-

Don’t get me wrong, I like this look on this Pretty Damsel, it’s just not me.  At this point I have to say, that of course there are exceptions to what I’m saying, but like I said, I am coming to conclusions based on my experiences.

Berlin dudes are a totally different kettle of fish, they seem to understand the Theory of Low Maintenance more and as a result so far, I feel the most ‘myself’ style-wise with Berlin dudes.  They don’t give you as much shit when you don’t treat everyday like a Red Carpet event. Ps every other Lagos occasion is stamped with the label, ‘Red Carpet’ (!!!!!!!!!!!!!) Anyhoo, I’m more open to show my imperfections with Berlin guys and they seem more receptive towards it.  I’m sure there are a bunch of shallow ones out there but…

Anyhoo, I could go on, there are several other differences between Lagos and Berlin guys- e.g. Lagos guys are far more driven and accomplished whilst the average Berlin guy is happy to plan his future by tossing a coin and seeing which side it lands, but I’ll stop here for now.

If anyone wants to weigh in, please do!

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Oops! My Website Design Makeover- Work In Progress!

Hello everyone-well, this post was supposed to be my- ‘Hey, look at the new design for my header and background!’ post!!

Now its my- ‘Hey, the lovely illustrator, Nadia PR and I worked together to create a new header and background illustration. The header is good to go, but as you can see the background illustration needs a bit more tinkering!!’

If you don’t know- I loooove fashion illustrations, and if I had more time I would do more work to reflect this…when I can,  I enjoy to surf the net looking for new fashion illustrators, seeing the new techniques out there…so I always jump at the opportunity to work with illustrators for my blog when I can.  For this project-I briefed Nadia on what I wanted and from that she came up with these final drawings.  As you can see I was inspired by colour and print…

Look at me writing away- with my new background illustration, CAN YOU EVEN READ WHAT I’M SAYING?!! It’s making my laugh actually, because if I don’t I’ll throw myself on the cold, hard floor and wail…DAMN! Now there’s more work to do in this area and I have no idea if we can pull this of or what has to be done to reduce the size of the background illustrated images, so they don’t obstruct the text but I guess I’ll find out!

During this uncertain time, I’d love to hear your comments and feedback on the problem.  What do you think of the header illustration? How should we go about the background illustration?

Here are 2 of the images for you to look at, it may be easier for you to critique them this way: bloggerimage2backgroundheader1Have a good weekend everyone! Bisous

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